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TNews - Harmonious romantic relationships are the aspiration of every couple, but the reality is that every relationship comes with its own set of challenges. Beautiful and challenging moments in a relationship are mirrors reflecting how partners communicate and respond to each other. A recent study published in the journal Frontiers in Psychology in 2021 revealed the importance of healthy communication in building and sustaining relationships, not only during conflicts but also in moments of joy together. Responses and communication during two crucial moments in a relationship, namely during arguments and when sharing good news, can be the primary determinants for the sustainability of the relationship.
First and foremost, moments of tension and conflict often serve as a true test for the resilience of a relationship. Research indicates that it's not just the topics of disputes that trigger the potential end of a relationship, but also how partners communicate during these conflicts. The study highlighted several key aspects that can influence the outcome of disputes, such as the tone of the partners' voices, the tendency to interrupt, and the overall dynamics contributing to the conflict.
The study classified four types of responses that commonly emerge during arguments. Firstly, there is the active-constructive response, where partners deliberately engage in discussion to actively resolve the issues at hand. On the other hand, the passive-constructive response involves a partner silently forgiving and patiently waiting for things to improve without expressing their disagreement openly.
However, active-destructive and passive-destructive responses are causes for concern. Active-destructive responses involve sharp criticism towards the partner and even threats to end the relationship as a response to a problem. Meanwhile, passive-destructive responses involve neglecting the partner and the underlying issues, leading to a lack of constructive communication or a possible failure to find a solution.
Alongside this, the study further emphasized the importance of accommodation in resolving conflicts and restoring harmony in a relationship. Accommodation involves strategies individuals use to address differences and restore the relationship. In this context, emotional management, a willingness to listen, and seeking solutions together are key to maintaining a harmonious relationship.
Moving forward, moments of happiness also have a significant impact on the sustainability of a relationship. Sharing good news and joyous moments with a partner, known as capitalization, can strengthen the quality of the relationship. A recent study in 2023 found that positive responses to good news can create a sense of appreciation by the partner, resulting in a well-maintained relationship that is responsive to each other's needs and more likely to remain committed.
However, passive or destructive responses to good news can have detrimental effects. Partners who do not respond positively can make the partner sharing the good news feel neglected or undervalued. This can damage emotional intimacy and lead to dissatisfaction in the relationship. Therefore, it is crucial for partners to be aware of how they respond to their partner's good news.
Further research indicates that an active-constructive response, involving active support and positive inquiries about the partner's good news, can lead to greater sexual satisfaction. Conversely, passive responses, such as inadequate attention or even criticism of good news, are associated with lower sexual satisfaction or even sexual pressure.
An additional study in 2022 highlighted the importance of maintaining individual mental health to be a more responsive partner. Researchers found that individuals are better able to respond enthusiastically to their partner's good news when they themselves experience positive emotions. Therefore, maintaining emotional balance and mental health is key to creating positive responses in a relationship.
In conclusion, harmonious romantic relationships require effort from both parties, especially in terms of communication and responses to various situations. Positive responses during arguments and celebrating good news can strengthen emotional bonds and increase satisfaction in the relationship. Conversely, destructive or passive responses can damage the foundation of the relationship and have negative impacts on sexual life. Therefore, awareness of how we communicate and respond to our partners is key to building and maintaining a healthy and harmonious relationship.